Okay, yes, there's a subtitle, but it's too long to put in the subject line. It's "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking."
There's a real pleasure in recognition. Hearing about yourself, finding
out you're not alone, it can be a huge relief and release. And so, as a
long-time (although fairly gregarious) introvert, I enjoyed this book
quite a bit. Not much of it was truly surprising, but still, it's nice
to read a book that validates the way I tend to operate anyway.
the section on over- and under-stimulation I found very useful. Having
just come off of a very overstimulated week, I'm enjoying cocooning at
home and doing some editing this week. The way she presented it gave me
some good ideas for trying to build in moments of quiet. And to better
understand why, when I've been at a conference all day, sometimes I
can't stand the thought of being around another person and avoid the
social events to take myself out for supper with a book.
None of this was revolutionary, but it was presented in such a way that was very helpful.
her section on workspaces was really excellent. And by excellent, I
mean I identified so strongly with every bit of it. It let me think
about the various places I've worked, and which ones made me very
stressed - and that was often half because I had a boss who was
unpleasant to work for, and half because the open concept workspace made
me jumpy and overstimulated.
On the other hand, she does tend to
conflate introversion with high reactivity. I'm both, so I enjoyed it,
but it does sometimes tend to steer this book away from being about
introversion, and towards high sensitivity to external stimuli. The
correlation isn't known - she points out that while 70% of people who
are high reactive are introverts, no corresponding study has been done
to see how many introverts are high reactive.
So, for a couple
of chapters, we drifted away from introversion to high
although she had acknowledged we don't really know that yet.
that section, I was most struck by something I hadn't heard about highly
sensitive people - how much their later mental health depends on
parenting. Makes me want to call my Mom and thank her (again!) for how
she and Dad raised me.
I don't know how much all this science
holds up - I'm not really qualified to judge. But much of it resonated
with my personal experience, and that always inclines me to like a book.
It's not one I need to own, or read again, but it was a validating
I'd be interested to see what the reactions of introverted
readers of this book were compared to the reactions of extroverted